Pregnancy Update

I reached six months pregnant recently and suddenly I realized that there’s a baby at the end of all this.  Obvious, I know, but it’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day realities of pregnancy. Between the morning sickness (which still shows up every morning promptly at 9:30) to the emotional outbursts, some days it’s all I can do just to get through the day. I’m lucky to have really awesome people in my life that forgive me for my dark moods, my sometimes overwhelming anxiety and my extreme irritability.  I may not show it very well, but I appreciate the people in my life now more than ever.  I literally could not get through this without the kindness of others.  And….now I’m crying.  Oh yeah, I ugly cry at my desk at work at least once a week. And in my car.  This is pregnancy.

That being said, seriously cool things are happening. We found out the gender – a BOY! We picked a name – Colton Davis! And little man has started moving around like crazy. I cannot describe the pure happiness I feel when he starts rocking and rolling, especially if he’s been quiet for a while.    And surprisingly/not surprising, my husband and I are closer than ever.  A long time ago Clay asked me if he and Savy were hanging off a cliff, which one would I choose. We all know what the answer used to be, but now I’d pick Clay.  If I’m being a gigantic B for no reason, rather than get angry he will gently ask me if I’m ok, at which point I will confess grumpiness. Sometimes I can stop being a gigantic B, but sometimes I just have to go to bed. He’s stepped up in ways that have surprised both of us I think, as Clay used to claim he was incapable of taking care of someone.

I stopped riding at 22 weeks after a 15 minute ride lamed me for 2 days. My body resolutely said NO MORE, you are done. While I miss riding, I have a big baby bump. My balance is off and I admit I waddle. Considering how much of a challenge walking is, I know I couldn’t ride right now even if I wanted to. Actually, if everyone could stop asking if I’m having twins that would be really nice 🙂 Still, I’m proud I made it to 5 1/2 months before I had to quit.

Since we don’t ride anymore I’ve committed myself to thorough grooming, lunging and ground driving.  I’ll bribe the hubs to come take some video soon so everyone can see what I mean by ground driving.


A Different Kind of Obsession

I haven’t been writing lately because I’ve been obsessed with something completely different from horses; pregnancy. Pregnancy. Something every mom is intimately familiar with and unexplainable to those uninitiated. Everyday is a new adventure so it’s not like I know what I’m talking about either. I do know that it’s completely different than what I expected. Since I bought Savy a little over 3 years ago, she’s been my number one priority. I was always thinking about her, obsessing over training, and day dreaming about the perfect centerline at our next show.  I completely expected to continue as normal once I got pregnant, until I was too large to physically ride anymore.

That has not been the case. Almost immediately the morning sickness and fatigue of the first trimester put a screeching halt to any riding. Since I found out I was pregnant I’ve ridden maybe 10 times in almost 4 months. It’s crazy! What’s surprising is that we’ve actually made progress. It seems that each time we work together, either on the ground or in the saddle, our work is more potent. When I ride next, it’s as if we just finished our last ride, even if it was two weeks earlier. What’s even better is Savy’s overall acceptance of the aids has improved dramatically.  She has always chomped on the bit, or tried to evade the bit. Not so much anymore. A few ground driving sessions improved something we’ve been working on for 3 years!

Since my rides haven’t been long, or taxing, I’ve been focusing completely on the basics. Inside leg to outside rein. Bending through the body and not just the neck. Rewarding for each little try on Savy’s part. Taking frequent walk breaks. Keeping the back lifted during the trot to canter transition. She felt so solid, soft and on my aids during our last ride, that I decided to try out some more difficult stuff. Leg yields centerline to B & E, easy. Even tempo, stayed on the outside rein, beautiful cross over. Trot lengthening, easy. Improved the connection dramatically actually. I could have taken that ride all the way down centerline at a rated show!  If we were working regularly with a trainer, it’d be time to up the ante and start working on harder stuff.

If it seems I am really excited and over celebrating just one ride – I am. Even if it was great, everyone knows that with horses it’s one step forward two steps back.  But my riding days, as sporadic as they are already, are numbered. I’m going to hold onto this one great ride. We had a cold snap recently with lots of snow and I barely made it out to the barn, but when I am there Savy has a wild look in her eyes.  As much as I miss her, and riding, I’m happy that she gets this break to be just a horse. She has no pressure, no expectations, and as a result she seems to like our time together even more.

We’re Getting There…

Nicole and I have been saying these words a lot lately.  Things are really coming together for Savy and me.  After two plus years of training, I can finally ride my horse on the bit and over her back consistently. I can make her neck longer and rounder, and I can raise her poll.  We can comfortably and consistently have nice work at the walk, trot, and canter, both directions.  I can’t tell you happy our progress makes me.  Sure, we still have tough rides every now and then.  Savy is still an Arabian mare after all, but we work through the tough spots.

horeIn addition to having a good grasp on the basics, we’ve been working first level stuff pretty comfortably too.  Lenthenings are getting easier. Savy kicks ass at leg yields.  The work is there for first level, now we just have to polish it – i.e. keeping her rounder and completely through during the more difficult movements.  During my last lesson we worked a tiny bit of passage.  It’s so difficult, but after just a few steps of passage, the regular trot work was so much better and uphill (and easier).

There are two major reasons I think that have made all the difference in the world for us.  The first was Savy’s bone-deep cut at the end of December.  My mentality towards Savy and training has totally changed since then.  Mainly, I don’t take the training as seriously.  If we have a bad ride, it doesn’t upset me.  I know that tomorrow is a new day, and every day I get to ride Savy is a gift.  She could hurt herself today and be out of commission for the rest of her life, and it can happen in an instant.  I forgot that riding was a privilege.  A privilege that I have yearned for my whole life.  I find myself rewarding Savy a lot more now, and focusing on all the positive parts of our ride.  As a result, Savy works for me, she tries for me.  We’re better partners now.

The second is my fitness level.  It’s hard to make progress when you’re trying to work through a movement and your muscles are shaky and ready to give out, and then you have to take a walk break.  I expect Savy to be an athlete and it’s only fair that I do the same myself.  I’m starting to sound like a broken record, but Beachbody has made all of the difference for me.  Before I bought Savy I used to workout 5 days a week and eat low calorie meals.  I got stronger, but I never really got the results I wanted.  After Savy I thought my rides would be enough of a workout, but they’re not.  The meal plans and the workouts, combined with coaching from Beachbody have really worked for me.  I push myself harder than I would if I didn’t have a coach and other people doing the programs with me.  I find myself becoming increasingly more passionate about the company and the programs, and that’s why I decided to become a coach.  If I make a little extra money from doing it, then that’s great, but mostly I want to share this feeling with other people.  I’m going to continue my fitness journey with Beachbody, and it would be great to have people doing it with me.  Enough about that 🙂

Our first show of the season is THIS weekend.  We’re showing Training 2 & 3 to get our feet wet.  Depending on how things go, I’d like to show First Level at the next show.  I’m still super nervous about the show, even though I feel pretty confident at Training Level now.  My biggest worry is that Savy is going to jig in the walk.  Jigging – for my non-horsey friends is somewhere between a walk and trot, and judges do not like it.  Sometimes Savy jigs in our rides and sometimes she doesn’t.  So I’m practicing positive visualization by running through our tests, and visualizing them going perfectly. I’ve read a lot about the power of positive visualization.

Also, I washed my comforter so that I can show everyone the re-decorating projects I’ve done lately and it shrunk 😦  Once my new one comes in I’ll get some pics up here.


Hand Grazing Musings

With beautiful spring weather comes spring rains, and spring rains bring gorgeous, bright green candy-grass.  Hand-grazing season is upon us.  For those of us who’s horses are in a mud paddock all winter, we have to spend several weeks in spring getting the horses built up to the grass.  Meaning, we can’t just let the horses run wild in acres of this delicious looking grass without over eating and causing themselves health problems.  Hand grazing provides a great opportunity for introspection, since basically you’re just watching your horse gobble up the grass as fast as possible.


And boy have I had a lot to think about!  For a brief moment in time it looked as though Clay and I might be moving to Wellington, Fl.  I know!  Crazy right!  But that job opportunity seems to be going no where, so the excitement is over.  And these last few months I’ve discovered I still have interests outside of horses.  I’ve actually cooked a few times!  I literally hadn’t cooked since before I bought Savy.  I re-decorated several rooms in our house.  Most importantly I’ve made becoming an athlete a priority.  I’m sick of having to take walk breaks during my lesson because I’m not fit enough to keep up with Nicole and Savy.


I’ve been looking for a way to get fit.  I joined a gym closer to my work.  I went a few times and got bored.  I went to a barre class.  Nothing stuck.  Randomly, my husbands step-sister became a Beachbody coach and started a PIYO challenge.  I was intrigued.  PIYO combines Pilates and yoga, two exercises that are great for riders.  I did PIYO, saw some changes, and now I’m doing the 21 day fix.

I really, really like the 21 day fix.  I like the meal plan, it’s super easy to follow.  And the workouts are just the right amount of challenging.  Autumn seems to read my mind and gives me motivation right when I’m ready to quit.  I plan on doing the fix until I reach my goals.  Then I’d like to try another Beachbody program.

quoteWhat I like about Beachbody are that they’re no gimmicks.  It’s coaching, meal plans, and workouts out that are designed to help people lose weight correctly.  The meal plans emphasis fruits, veggies and whole grains.  The workouts incorporate stretching.  It feels healthy and sustainable.  I know I sound like a walking advertisement, but the more I do with this company the more passionate I become about them.  My coach has suggested I become a coach myself, but I’m not sure.  I don’t want to feel like I have to sell something.  I will post final results after  the three week challenge, but right now things are looking good.

And I will have a training update and some pics of my redecorating projects up here soon.


Alfredo Hernandez Clinic – January 2015

Alfredo Clinic Jan 2015

The new year rang cold and blistery, but exciting with the promise of a spicy Alfredo Hernandez clinic.  Alfredo flew in to temps in the mid-twenties, and tried his best to stay positive about it.  He was entertaining as always, but I only audited for 4 hours.  I was hoping to ride, but due to Savy’s injury (a bone deep gash on her leg that amazingly didn’t cut anything important) I didn’t feel prepared, so Nicole rode her.

The worked on flying changes, and specifically an exercise to help with being late behind.  He had Nicole ride on a 15 meter circle, alternating between haunches in and haunches out at the trot.  Once she mastered that (which took about 5 minutes), he had her do it at the canter, changing leads with the haunches.  It forced her changes to be clean.  10 minutes later she figured that out.  After that they worked on the piaffe with the bamboo, which she also figured out immediately, he stopped and called it a day.  He said there was no point to push it, since she did what he was trying to get her to do.

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Did I mention Savy is incredibly smart and athletic?  That doesn’t mean she’s easy – many of her “clean” changes included a gigantic buck in the middle, but hey.  She’s 5 doing changes.  Give her a break.  I mentioned the attitude to Alfredo and he said it’s what makes her good.  So I’m making peace with bucking during every ride.  It’s just who she is.

Here a few points from my brief auditing time:

  • No petting during work.  The reward is walking.  So if they do something right, walk and reward.
  • If the horse is late behind in the change, ask with the haunches first instead of the shoulder.  Yes, this is not technically proper.  But it’s a learning exercise for the horse, not the way you’d ride in the test.
  • Breaks are the most important part of work
  • Strength is build by repetition, not continuous work – think reps at the gym, you don’t do squats for 45 minutes straight
  • Make the horse flexible before straight.  Alfredo was a fan of working constantly on a 15 meter circle.  15 meters because he didn’t want the horse to touch the arena wall.  This forced the horse and rider to stay on the outside rein.  For the last month, all of my lesson have been entirely on a 15 meter circle.  It appears Nicole is using a new tactic to get me to bend; muscle memory.  She’s completely by passing my mind and drilling the feeling into my muscles.  It’s actually working.

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Luckily Alfredo is coming back in June and July, and hopefully I’ll be riding in those clinics.  Things are coming along well (mostly) in our training.  We’ve been working hard on improving my riding the canter.  Does that make sense?  Savy has a nice canter, I have to learn how to ride it.  I’m learning what doesn’t work (pinching thighs), but I’m still figuring out using leg without pinching.  I get a nice canter for a few strides, and then I lose it and Savy breaks.  This is how the whole dressage thing works, nice moments built on nice moments until one day it’s all nice and you can move on to perfecting something else.  The all nice phase lasts about one week.

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When is Enough, Enough?

I haven’t wanted to ride lately, I haven’t even wanted to go to the barn.  I could blame it on the weather, but the truth is, Savy and I are having problems.  I feel like I’m at the point in a relationship where that last fight turns solitary isolated events into a pattern, a pattern that seems unchangeable.  Couple’s counseling?  Savy is ridden by my trainer 3 times a week and I have lessons weekly.  At a certain point I have to be able to ride my horse, and I can’t.  Not really.  I can make Savy do things, because she respects the whip and the spur, but she’s not just unwilling, she actively tells me to fuck off.

I can feel everyone who knows anything about horses thinking in unison, have you ruled all any physical problems.  Of course I have, I do everything possible to make sure she’s happy and comfortable.  You know how I know it’s just me: Savy is a totally different horse when my trainer riders her.  Gone is the chronic attitude, gone is the unwillingness to be in front of the leg.  She’s willing, polite, and she tries so damn hard for her.  She’s working 3rd level movements at the age of 5 with my trainer.  She is athletic, smart and eager to please.  When I ride her all of those aspects that make her wonderful for Nicole, are turned against me.  Every little thing I try to do with Savy is like running through quick sand, up hill.

It’s discouraging to say the least.  When I ask for the trot, no matter how gently I brush my leg against Savy’s side, she flicks her tail and pins her ears.  When I ask for the canter she bucks.  If she doesn’t buck there is even more trail swishing and ear pinning. She lets me know every stride of every ride that she is unhappy.  What am I supposed to do?  I’ve tried being super positive and rewarding every tiny little thing I can, and I’ve tried punishing her.  Nothing works.  My trainer says everything gets worse before it gets better, and that has proven true.  I also totally freak out like this before things get better, because they are so bad, but it feels different this time.  We’ve had this issue since day 1, and everything I do seems to make it worse.

It makes me sad.  It makes me sad to consistently make her do something she so clearly is telling me she doesn’t want to do.  I’m not asking for canter pirouettes here, I’m just asking for simple walk, trot, canter; on the bit and forward.  This is the reasoning I say to myself when I feel sad and guilty for riding her, it’s not hard work.  She’s more than capable of doing it.  But just because she’s capable does it make it anymore fair to her, or to me, if we’re both so unhappy?

This is the essence of what I need to figure out.  Is this fair? Are we a good pair?  Is this going to work?  And my god, what if the answer is no???


Great Gifts for Horse Lovers

It’s that time of the year again!  I personally love Christmas shopping.  Spending money on gifts for my friends and family is one of my most favorite activities.  But I realize most people stress over this yearly holiday chore, especially the loved ones of us crazy equestrians.    So I put together a list of neat horsey related gifts that require limited or no knowledge of horses.

Win Pillow×18-burlap-ribbon-pillow?ref=shop_home_active_6

For $35 this pillow is adorable.  You’d need access to a ribbon, preferably a blue ribbon won by your loved equestrian, so it would require a little bit of planning and sneaking around, but that only makes the gift even more cool.


Dana's Doodle's

Dana’s Doodles website has a plethora of cute horse swag.  This stall sign for $35 is especially cute, and all you need to know is the horse’s name.


Ride to Forget Bracelot

Isn’t etsy awesome!  This hand stamped bracelet says “sometimes I ride to forget, but I never forget to ride”.  Riding is an escape for most of us and this bracelet echo’s the sentiment even when we’re not at the barn. And it’s only $28!!

Effax Leather Care Kit–11737p

Don’t ask me why but I’m obsessed with leather care, and I bet other horse people are too.  We deal with a lot of expensive leather equipment.  Effax is the best, and this kit has it all.


The Newmarket double-bonded fleece is awesome.  It will change your life.  I should know… I spent an absurd amount on a blanket for Savy in the navy and now I would like one for myself, thank you very much.  The color patterns are recognizable to any self-respecting horse person and the quality will be appreciated immediately.


This one is no-brainer.  A girl can never have too many totes.

If you’re looking for something more personal, I can’t even tell you how much I would love someone that made my horse homemade treats.  Here’s a website with several easy recipes.

Stocking Stuffers:

Effervescent Brush Cleaner

Horses like mud.  We clean them with brushes.  We then have dirty brushes.  Now we are cleaning horses with dirty brushes.  This is a perfect solution.

Grooming Block

This grooming block may look weird, but it’s a god-send during shedding season, which is just around the corner (after Christmas).

Effox Lip Balm

I just want this.

Bling Braiding Bands

These braiding bands are one of those things that we think are cool, but would never buy for ourselves.  Buy them for us please.

Happy holiday shopping!!